You’re being really immature […] you know, you broke MY heart. I should be royally ticked off at you. I should be really cheesed off, I shouldn’t want to talk to you anymore.
Paulie

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“Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.” – Hans Margolius

It’s no secret that we are bombarded everyday with countless messages. In America alone, advertising is a $412 billion/year industry that is constantly telling us what to watch, where to go, and what to purchase. Their messages fill our televisions, radios, computers, newspapers, magazines, and morning commutes. The industry gladly spends this money because they know over time, they will shape our minds, hearts, and spending habits. Add all of the political pundits and experts filling our airwaves telling us how we should think… and it becomes increasingly clear that we are bombarded nearly every moment of our lives with messages that others want us to hear and believe.

All of these messages inevitably begin to shape our lives. Our heart and mind is indeed influenced by the messages that enter through our eyes and ears. And our life is slowly whittled away and re-formed by the loudest voices that get through (it’s no reason they are shouting so loud for our attention).

Whether you are pursuing a “less is more” lifestyle or just trying to find more health and fulfillment in your life, you will find countless benefits from embracing a discipline of solitude.

Solitude provides opportunity to rediscover our lives. By “electing to intentionally withdraw from human relationships for a period of time,” we are able to remove the shaping influence of others and recenter our hearts on our deepest values. We are able to evaluate the assumptions, claims, and messages of our culture. Often times, we realize that these shaping forces have been incorrect all along. And we have lost our lives because of them.

Consider that when we embrace solitude…

  • We intentionally remove the influence of others for period of time.
  • We intentionally remove the expectations of others.
  • We are able to hear our own heart speak.
  • We find rest and refreshment.
  • We discover that others can live without us.
  • We find that the world does not rest on our shoulders.
  • We can adequately reflect on our past and chart our future.
  • We break the cycle of busyness in our lives.
  • We become better equipped to show patience with others.
  • We feed our souls.

While anyone can practice solitude at any given time by just finding a quiet place to sit for an extended period of time, I have found these tips to be particularly helpful in developing a discipline of concentrated solitude:

  1. Give yourself enough time. If you are just starting, try 30 minutes. Typically, the first 15 minutes are filled with a busy mind still running fast. But after about 15 minutes, your mind will slow down enough to offer you deep reflection. And the longer you give it, the deeper it will go.
  2. Schedule time. If you are just hoping for an extra 30-45 minutes to show up in your day for solitude, it’ll never come. Time for solitude must be desired, scheduled, and created.
  3. Find a calm location. Your surroundings will make a big difference. Avoid “fast-paced” locations such as offices, kitchens, or any place that reminds you of work. Also keep in mind that you’ll find solitude more fulfilling if your space is uncluttered.
  4. Take as little as possible with you.
  5. Just allow your mind to wander. There are no set rules concerning what you should be thinking about. Just let your mind wander. As I mentioned, it will skip around at the very beginning. But eventually, your mind will settle in on something that your heart has been trying to tell you all along.
  6. Don’t quit just because you don’t like what you find. The journey into our heart is not always a pretty one. Sometimes when we start pulling back the layers of our heart and realize our deepest motivations, we don’t like what we see. This can be difficult for some and cause even more to stop altogether. But, don’t. A richer, fuller life is just around the corner.
  7. Don’t worry if you fall asleep. While solitude is different than napping, if you consistently find yourself falling asleep during these quiet periods, your mind may be trying to tell you something. And you should probably listen.
  8. Pray. If you are spiritual, certainly use this time to connect with God. If you are not spiritual, solitude just may put you more in touch with God if you are open to it. Because God often speaks with a small voice that is drowned out by the world’s noise, we can’t hear it until we intentionally listen for it.

Give solitude a chance. You’ve got nothing to lose. And your life to gain back.

staff:

Bad news. A major vulnerability, known as “Heartbleed,” has been disclosed for the technology that powers encryption across the majority of the internet. That includes Tumblr.

We have no evidence of any breach and, like most networks, our team took immediate action to fix the issue.

But this still means that the little lock icon (HTTPS) we all trusted to keep our passwords, personal emails, and credit cards safe, was actually making all that private information accessible to anyone who knew about the exploit.

This might be a good day to call in sick and take some time to change your passwordseverywhere—especially your high-security services like email, file storage, and banking, which may have been compromised by this bug.

You’ll be hearing more in the news over the coming days. Take care.

*syarat dan ketentuan berlaku

I can only stalk, because you wouldn’t talk.
@catwomanizer

1. You own maybe one pair of heels (nothing higher than like, three inches), and they’re black, four or five years outdated, and reserved for funerals and maybe weddings if they are at night and you’re reasonably confident no one will notice. Besides you can always trade them in for flip flops after a few drinks, right?

2. Your wardrobe consists primarily of t-shirts (mostly in men’s sizes) and faded jeans with real holes, not manufactured ones. You also probably own a disturbing amount of hoodies.

3. You tend to agree with men who say eye lash curlers look like torture devices. And the one time a friend convinced you to use one, after you’d painfully pinched the super sensitive skin of your eye lid half a dozen times, you were pretty confident you couldn’t tell the difference.

4. Your nail polish, if you’re even wearing any, is usually chipping or in varying degrees of chipped.

5. At the bar, you never order ‘cute’ or ‘cool’ drinks. Words like ‘Fuzzy Navel’ or ‘Purple Nipple’ sound like really lame heavy metal bands.

6. ‘Uh, I’ll just have a whiskey and coke please, no, not diet, the real stuff, yeah, thanks,’ could be your awkward bar-hopping catch phrase.

7. You rarely get invited on ‘serious’ shopping trips because not only do have very little fashion sense, you usually wind up wandering into Spencer’s and laughing at their selection of sex toys like a 16 year old virgin. They make bedazzled butt plugs?! Wouldn’t that like, hurt, or chafe or something? What if one comes off? Doesn’t seem very sanitary…

8. Phrases like ‘empire waist’ or ‘peasant cut’ mean very little if anything to you.

9. Makeup ‘contouring’ is basically a modern-day version of witchcraft you could never hope to possibly master. They have so many different brushes, what do they all do exactly?

10. The feeling of lipstick on your lips kind of freaks you out.

11. You look and feel like a new-born giraffe in short dresses. Summer dresses should be called ‘awkwardly lengthed’ dresses.

12. You don’t really know how to sit or exit a vehicle without flashing your lady parts to the entire world in a short dress or skirt. Bending over is pretty much out of the question.

13. You make friends with all the guys at the bar, or anywhere else for that matter, and get asked out by exactly… zero of them.

14. Your idea of an ‘updo’ involves the infamous messy bun with maybe a few bobby pins shoved in if things are really out of control.

15. At dance clubs you’re usually the girl in the corner entertaining people with your nonsensical dance moves that are obviously just meant to be amusing and are not how you really dance, duh. Its okay, people know you can’t dance; you can stop doing the ‘sprinkler’ now.

16. You were the girl during high school, surrounded by all her girlfriends, watching The Notebook while experiencing varying degrees of confusion and disbelief. As the two main characters died together in the most unrealistic death scene you’ve ever seen and your friends are ugly crying around you, you’re left wondering if next time you could all go see the second Lord of the Rings instead.

17. Your idea of a home cooked meal involves a box with a maximum of four instructions and even less necessary ingredients.

18. You are constantly baffled by current women’s fashion. Some of it you envy, but some of it seriously scares the crap out of you. I mean, what if she falls, she could break her neck or something.

19. Any sexual advances made toward you (or even in your general direction) by the opposite sex are usually met with strange, awkward laughter combined with a horrible case of word vomit.

20. You’re probably pretty content with who you are and don’t see much of a reason to try and be anything else. I mean, even in a baggy Star Wars t-shirt and jeans you’ve owned for five years, you’re still a girl, right?

Karena menatapmu dari lini masa tidak cukup,
Aku butuh kamu.
Dalam bentuk utuh.
Dihadapanku.
Kamu boleh pergi kalau kamu mau. Kamu boleh memilih jika kamu suka. Kamu boleh bertahan bila kamu sanggup. Karna; kamu harus bahagia, itu saja.

It scares me when you call. It freaks me out because there is nothing more I want than to answer the phone and hear you say all the things you couldn’t say to me. But I know if I answer, all I’ll get is a drunk dial. All I’ll get is you asking if I want to come over. So I can’t answer your calls. I can’t. Do you understand the pain you have put me through the past year? Year. Not a week, or four months, or even two months, but the past twelve.

I have cried over you so much it feels like part of a daily routine. I cannot believe people when they compliment me because I am terrified they are lying to my face. I’m afraid to ever fall for someone again because they’ll leave me in the blink of an eye. And I’ll have to go through this all over again. Do you know the horrible things you’ve yelled at me? The back and forth tug-of-war you play with me because you’re bored? Because I do.

And you know what else I remember? How I loved you for you. I loved you unapologetically, without any fear, and was incredibly happy with you. She was concerned that you didn’t wear expensive enough clothing. I loved being able to pick something out for you to wear in the morning. I thought you were talented, and incredible, and the fact you chose to spontaneously write a novel made me happy for you, because you were clearly very interested in it. I threw myself wholeheartedly into loving you, and I was met with a sharp, unexpected, twelve-foot wall.

So I put up my own walls now. I don’t ever let anyone tell me they might like me. I don’t let anyone get close. I go in the bathroom to cry and don’t come out until I look picture perfect again. I make self-deprecating jokes because it’s easier to do that than to admit I’m petrified no one will ever truly love me. I go to hook up with other guys and the minute they try and compliment me, I have to physically shush them. Do you know how screwed up that is? I can’t take a compliment anymore. From anyone. I build a fifty-foot wall before I’ve even said hello.

It’s not just there. It’s been a year and I’m finally developing real feelings for someone else, and that scares the crap out of me. I’m scared he knows that I like him. I’m frightened that if he knows, he has power over me and therefore has the power to do to me what you did all over again. And I know I’m screwing myself over with this, because he’s unlike anyone I’ve met, and he’s nice and smart and entirely too good for me. But I can’t do anything about it. I’ve got rules because of you. Keep your walls up.

I can’t take this game you want to play. You want me to be available when it’s convenient for you. And I may be putting up walls and trying to guard myself but I will make sure that no matter how much I want to, I will never go by your agenda again. If you’ve taught me one thing, it’s that I have to operate on my own schedule, because you’re never going to fight for me.

So, make up your mind. If you want me, really start fighting for me. Don’t pretend. And if you don’t, please. Stop calling.

  • Situasi: pagi-pagi lagi di club house
  • Cewe: buset setrikaan pagi pagi gini rajin amet
  • Cowo: mau jemput nyokap di bandara, baju harus rapih, harus ganteng pokoknya
  • Cewe: mau tambah ganteng ga?
  • Cowo: apaan? Dipinjemin gel rambut? Parfum?
  • Cewe: engga.. ini sekalian setrikain baju gue.. ntar jamin deh tambah ganteng ... di mata gue..
  • Cowo: ........